Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Teehee

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

A Quote

“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”

I had to bring a quote to class, any quote that I wanted that meant something to me, or spoke to us in some way. I chose that quote by Albert Einstein. It was a famous quote that really summed up something that I've learned recently, and that is that you have to work your way through your own problems. You can't just sit back and watch them solve themselves. Each issue, confrontation, problem or puzzle in life is set there to teach us something in one way or another, but we put each thing there ourselves. We create our own problems, so we have to figure them out. You have to think... you have to learn. 

I just thought I'd share that quote with you guys, I really liked it.

Monday, September 6, 2010

Going The Extra Mile

Last December, I was in a relationship with the captain of our volleyball team at school. The only reason I went out with him was to convince myself I wasn't head over heals for Chris. It was a tricky situation. The guy's name is JP (Which is what I call him, short for John Paul). He was a good guy, interesting, kind, but very impatient and I felt shoved while in the relationship with him. He really liked me, and I didn't like him at all. Not romantically. I broke up with him a month after we started dating, and for about three days afterward he wouldn't leave me alone. He would show up at my door, or "bump into me" while I was walking home from school, etc. Needless to say, I felt harassed. I told him to move on with his life, and to leave me alone. Next thing I know he took a bus to Nayarit and hitchiked back.
I didn't talk to him for about two weeks, even though I saw him fairly often. I stopped going to volleyball practice and didn't hang out with his group of friends anymore. Nearing the end of the school year, he starts something within our volleyball team and even though everyone was furious with him, I was the only one that would yell back at him. One of these times, he told me that his life had changed, and in consecuence, he had changed. That he didn't care who liked him and who didn't anymore, that he knew he was doing the right thing and was helping 'toughen' the kids up. I told him he was being ridiculous and that his life hadn't changed at all, and he was just using it as an excuse for his behaviour and attitude. He then shifted his glance and told me that having a family can change your life.
Now, when he told me this, I literally had a facepalm moment. I knew he had issues, but enough to go as getting a girl pregnant? I walked away from him at this point. No questions needed to be asked, I didn't care. I was just glad to have dodged that bullet.
The months passed, and I didn't really talk to him again. I didn't want to, he wasn't someone I wanted to have in my life.
Today, he showed up at our school again. He was going to be using the volleyball court to practice for a tryout he had coming up. After a while of ignoring him, I realized my curiousity was really getting the best of me, so I went up and started chatting with him. It was very awkward and uncomfortable at first, but not that bad once he said something that made me upset and I yelled at him. Almost normal. After a few minutes of nothing to talk about, I asked him if I could ask him a question, and he said sure... I asked if he had a baby. He looked at me, and said that he used to, a little boy. I didn't understand, and asked him what happened... he told me that he had a friend that was abandoned by her boyfriend when she got pregnant. She was thrown out of her house, and was left to fend for herself. She needed someone, and JP offered to help her raise the child, even though it wasn't his and didn't have feelings for her. He told her that he would get a job or two, and be there for her, because he didn't like seeing her so alone in a situation like this.
Luckily for him, I suppose, the boyfriend came back and decided to marry the girl.So he didn't end up staying... but that really astonished me. I thought that he had gone off and done something incredible stupid and immature, but instead he really did something noble and generous. It wouldn't have worked, mind you, the helping her raise the child. It wasn't his child, and he didn't love the mother... but it was really neat how he would have changed his life in order for the little boy to have a father.

I guess next time I'll ask questions before I go supposing the worst of people, even when I don't like them.

Saturday, September 4, 2010

Sisters


Wikipedia: In most societies throughout the world, siblings usually grow up together and spend a good deal of their childhood socializing with one another. This genetic and physical closeness may be marked by the development of strong emotional bond such as love or enmity.

Urban Dictionary: your sister is the girl that will always be there for you and may save you one day, whether you know it or not. your sister may or may not be related to you and could just be an amazing friend, but either way your sister is always slow to judge and quick to forgive. she will always love you, she might just hide it from you.

Unknown: A sister is someone who's been where you've been, who knows you and what you're about... Someone you know you can call if you need to when something's just not working out. A sister is someone who's more than just family her friendship is one of a kind... And the closeness you've  shared through life's laughter and tears is the deepest that you'll ever find.

Today,  the thing people lay awake at night and dream about happened to my sister. Her best friend moved away a few months ago... and today, she showed up completely unexpected at our door. The happiness that was radiating off Maya was tangible, she had this huge smile on her face, she even started to cry. I understood completely... I realized that this was something I'm sure she's been hoping, one of those wild "wish upon a star" hopes, that this would happen someday. Any day. It's something I do. I would have burst into tears if Ashley, Mik, or Chris had shown up at my door unexpectedly. They are all people I miss more than one can really imagine. It's an incredible joy, to have someone so close you, that they feel like sisters. To have a friend that you can confide so deeply in, that it doesn't matter what color you are, where you were born, the fact that you don't live together (sometimes that's a good thing). You're just the best of friends, that one can have. 
It amazes me how much people affect other people. Like my boss said the other day, "no man is an island". We need people... but I think I just realized how much.